Don’t be Pushy: Invite someone you’re interested in, in a clean manner and leave the decision-making to them when in a swinger house near me. Don’t ask them for reasons or explanations, even if it’s your partner. Don’t carry on your sweet talking to convince someone if they’ve declined. You’d only drive a nail through your relationship. Don’t overindulge in alcohol. Don’t take someone who isn’t interested and not informed, about the actual course of the night.
Don’t take a Ticket: Don’t take a ‘ticket’ to a swinger house party (a ticket is the one who goes just to get you in and not to take part). Don’t disturb the swinging pleasures of others. Don’t be rude and try to cheat or lie. Don’t give personal details to anyone at the party if you aren’t comfortable. Don’t be vague about your desires. Don’t cross other people’s limits.
Don’t arrive too early: A good rule of thumb is to give the swinger house party thrower at least a 15 minute grace period before showing up. If you have literally nowhere else to go, text or call to ask them if it would be okay if you came a few minutes early at least two hours ahead of time so they can adjust. Otherwise, after I answer the door, you’re going end up in my bedroom, sitting on a pile of clean laundry that I will literally never put away, and watching me strip naked, chug a glass of stress wine, and wrestle myself into a strapless bra and Spanx with one hand while also trying to get eyeliner on
Don’t be pressured into doing anything you don’t want to: If you don’t want to do something, say ‘No thank you. I don’t want to’. You don’t need to say why. If the person hassles you, find the host or manager of the club and tell them what’s happening. The right to say no is the fundamental etiquette in swinging.
Don’t judge: Respect other’s kinks. Going ‘Ewwww. Look at what they’re doing’ isn’t cool. Neither is frantically nudging your partner and whispering and giggling behind your hands.
Don’t ‘take one for the team: You both need to find the people you’re planning on sleeping with attractive. Have a code word that says ‘That person doesn’t do it for me’ that others can’t interpret. Again, play nicely.
Save the last dance for me? Some veteran swingers let their partners do whatever they want at the party but make sure the last sexual encounter is with each other.
